Q: Zihar
Assalamu alaikum respected brothers. I wish for assistance in some foolishness that I committed. I was speaking to my wife in a sarcastic manner in a “good natured way.” Alhamdu Lillah, she is 8 months pregnant now, and as such, it is natural that she is unable to do everything she has been in the past. I used this shortcoming which she is not to be blamed for to poke fun at her. Then, in a jokingly manner, I suggested to her what means “No more marital relations, huh?” as a joke punishment for her (I had in mind that a wife can withhold herself from her husband if he does not fulfill his duties). I then told her that I- finishing my own joke- won`t be able to fulfill that. Is what I did considered a form of Zihar? If so, am I now obliged to fast for two consecutive months as well as it being counted as one divorce? May Allah forgive me for that shortcoming, but I had neither Zihar or divorce as remotely my intention, but once I said it, I realized that I was joking too far. May Allah forgive all of our shortcomings. Assalamu alaikum.
All praise be to Allah, and may his peace and blessings be on the last and best prophet and messenger, Muhammad.
Although your question is a bit unclear, I don’t see what could be labeled as zihar in this case.
(Zihar = when a man says to his wife: you are as forbidden to me as the back of my mother, or something to that extent where a man would liken his wife to a woman, or part of a woman, who is permanently forbidden to him).
Allah knows best.
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